Six week PP

Tomorrow I’ll be six weeks postpartum, and while I am super missing sex with my husband, I’m not sure my body feels up to it. I had a quite bad second degree tear (two directions so two tears I think), and it feels almost totally healed, but still not one hundred percent, and I am still bleeding the tiniest bit.

My six week pp appt isn’t until Thursday.

Should I just bite the bullet and try sex with him this weekend? Or wait to see what OB says on Thursday?

Responses

I had sex at 2 weeks PP we fooled around first and he was super gentle when we did have sex. It was not painful for me at all. But everyone is different. Listen to your body don’t force yourself

I was in the same situation and my best advice is to wait. Even after being ‘healed’ and the stitches have dissolved the pain of having sex again was awful. I wanted it so much but it wasn’t the same and I wish I gave myself more time to heal. I had sex 6 pp and was the biggest regret. My best advice is to wait until you stopped bleeding and you have had your first period then try having sex xx

Sounds like very thoughtful advice, thank you. And yeah, because where is the blood even coming from? The uterine wound? If it’s still bleeding, sex doesn’t sound safe.

I will one hundred percent wait to see my doctor on Thursday and likely wait even longer, per your advice.

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